In order to have hot, you must have cold. In order to have
light, you must also have dark. In order to have up, you must
Right? They’re opposites. One can’t really exist without the
In fact, they’re actually “pairs.” Without each other, neither
can exist. It just doesn’t make sense. You can’t have up
We all understand that now.
But how many times do we try to cram our lives with
happiness – and remove every last drop of sadness?
The truth is that in order for you to experience true
happiness in your life, you must experience sadness. It’s
required. Without sadness, we really can’t even understand
what happiness is.
Yet how many of us struggle and fight against sadness when it
comes into our lives?
We think that we should ONLY be experiencing the good,
the positive, the happy. We MUST be thinking positively at
all times. And if we don’t, we blame ourselves for failing.
Is this a realistic way to live your life? Are YOU addicted to
only experiencing the “good” in life?
Are you TRULY embracing the “duality” of your life
Remember, you cannot throw only the heads side of a coin.
The tails side always goes with it. In order to have happiness,
you must also experience sadness. If you wish, consider it a
“credit” toward future happiness.
Dolly Parton describes it much more eloquently: “If you
want the rainbow, you’ve got to put up with the rain.”
In other words, and quite simply: It’s all good.
Stop judging individual experiences, and how “good” or
“bad” they are. Just enjoy and embrace all your life adventures.
And when seemingly negative things happen,
remember that it’s just the duality of life. It’s just the other
side of the coin. It’s required. It’s part of the equation.
It’s powerful, it’s universally understood, and it stops
everything in its tracks. By saying no, you’re instantly
slamming the door and holding it shut, ensuring nothing else
But how many of us say “No!” way too often?
You see, “No” really holds us back in life. It closes us off to
many of life’s wonderful experiences, and causes us to resist
what happens around us.
When we say no, we’re swimming against the current. When
we say yes, we’re swimming with the current.
Which do you think is easiest? Which produces less stress?
Which is faster, and more enjoyable?
We say “NO!” to life’s funny randomness, when a passing bus
splashes rainwater all over our new jeans. We shout “NO!” to
our emotions, resisting and fighting grief, when our pet rat
passes away. We yell “NO!” when we don’t get that
promotion, which we’d been working so hard to achieve.
Long story short: we say NO to everything, too often.
We fight against what happens to us in life, rather than
allowing it to be as it is. We resist it, rather than accepting it.
We say “No!” rather than saying “Yes” – or even just “Okay.”
By saying “Yes!” more to life, we go with the flow. Things
become more enjoyable and positive, less stressful and
anxious, and often the situation turns out for the better
So, SAY YES MORE.
And what about saying “Yes!” more socially too? Say “Yes!”
when you’re invited to that party. Say “Yes!” when you’re
asked if you’d like lunch with the boys. Say “Yes!” when
you’ve asked to go on that speed dating night, which you
wouldn’t normally even consider.
(That’s what Danny Wallace did in his great comedy cum
self-help book “Yes Man.” He said yes more. It changed his
So, if you’d like to flow more with the current of life... If
you’d like to inject a little more excitement into your day... If
you’d like to enjoy the random twist and turns of fate...
Then SAY YES MORE.
The Australians call it a “bias for yes.” The Spanish say “Si a
todo.” Buddhists describe it as flowing with the river of life.
Try it out, even if just for a week. It’ll change your world.